What is a friend? Amidst the rapid and relentless rhythm of subjectivity to virtually every individual’s online kingdom, we may have personally discombobulated our definition.
Psychologists define friendship as a voluntary relationship that is mutually gratifying with reciprocated care, developing from shared experience and interest (Pam M.S. Nugent). Given the tools of technology and the applications of effortless accessibility, we are unknowingly designing ways to form artificial ties and believing them to carry significance and meaning as a real relationship would. This system is vast and complex although it is one of the easiest processes to be increasingly spread and multiplied with practically no effort.
Through the expeditious cycle of click and swipe, we lose awareness of thoughtful consideration and mindfulness. We all subconsciously participate in the dangerously growing process of comparing others’ highlights to our bloopers. Of course we have become so accustomed to the manifestations of shallow attention-seeking and empty validation that they are not only a part of our culture but a part of our internal patterns. It is within human nature to seek acceptance and approval, but society has now quite literally provided us with the very palette of doing so: social media.
This powerful outlet has misconstrued our perception of normalcy, our conceptualized image of relationships and security. Social media warps our view of reality on an exponential level. Frighteningly enough, it is so comfortable and habitual to create links and associations between our online presences with others’ online presences. Those who seem to support and like you, those who can make your day through the quick and unseen taps on their screen, become meaningful to us, and we establish judgments and connections to them based on little substance. The pattern of gaining validation through online network is unhealthy and unnatural.
This has thus extensively influenced our expectations and standards of friendship. Good friends are not those who are simply present the most, answer the fastest, or artificially supply us with a band of commendatory support via internet-streamed basis.
However, circulation of positive feedback can most certainly stimulate progressive confidence and union through helpful advocacy, which should be promoted, but this must be approached with awareness in order to differentiate it from a superficial system of falsehood and misinterpretation.
Social media has established itself within many individuals, serving as a platform to showcase lives as it silently manipulates and distorts. It is essential to maintain aware and always put forth energy into substantial relationships and the meaningful presence of your reality—the beauty that is physically all around you and always will be.
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